It is devastating to find out that your spouse has had an affair. You may be set on ending the relationship, initially, then wonder if maybe taking a shot at saving your marriage is worth a try. Infidelity psychotherapy in NYC is must if you and your partner wish to save the marriage. Trying to salvage your relationship can be a definite plus in certain circumstances such as:
- If you have children especially if they are young
- The affair was a one night stand or short fling
- If your spouse is willing to accept responsibility for the affair
- The affair is terminated
- You have been married for a long time
- If you have the ability to have honest, open communication and have been able to work out issues in the past
- Both partners are willing to look at any problems within their marriage that contributed to the infidelity
All couples experience different reactions and feelings toward an affair and often these feelings can fluctuated rapidly. Initially you may feel a sense of disbelief, betrayal, loss, hopelessness and depression. An affair can also be an extreme blow to your confidence, self esteem and sense of self. If you and your spouse decide to attempt to save your marriage, be aware that this therapy will be painful for both people and cannot be solved overnight.
Dealing with the anger and resentment created by infidelity will take time, patience, ability and willingness to forgive and compromise between both partners. There are some situations in which this reconciliation may not be possible. If the affair was long term and created a web of deceit and lies, the affair is still going on or your spouse has intense feelings for the other partner and if one of the members wants to terminate the marriage.
Obtaining Infidelity Therapy from a qualified therapist can help you and your spouse work toward overcoming the feelings of betrayal, loss, hurt and help you reconnect with each other. Attempting to work such a situation out on your own can just create a repetitive cycle of blame and going around in circles. Infidelity psychotherapy in NYC offers a mediator that can help direct conversations toward being productive and making progress toward re-establishing a healthy relationship. Visit Linda Charnes, LMFT for more information.
Infidelity psychotherapy in NYC offers a mediator that can help direct conversations toward being productive and making progress toward re-establishing a healthy relationship. For more information visit the website or like us on Facebook.
Linda Charnes, LMFT
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